October 2015
IF I COULD SAY IT OVER AGAIN #10. “What’s wrong with you?”
I had a patient tell me that his mother hotly demanded this of him this so often he began to believe there really was something deeply wrong with him. It took years for him to [...]
IF I COULD SAY IT OVER AGAIN #9. “Well, at least I never – “
You never? Uh huh. This phrase is a way to shift attention from yourself, your foibles and faults by pointing out the mistake(s) of someone else. When you appraise the sin levels of others you're [...]
IF I COULD SAY IT OVER AGAIN #8. “It’s up to you.” or “Whatever you want.”
These are comments of indifference. It's like saying you could care less. Instead you might ask some thought-provoking questions like, "What is most important to you in this situation?" "How would such-and-such decision make a [...]
IF I COULD SAY IT OVER AGAIN #7. “Good luck”
This is such a popular phrase, what could be wrong with it? But you can do better than that. It's glib and impersonal if you're talking to someone you know and care about. Instead say, [...]
September 2015
IF I COULD SAY IT OVER AGAIN #6. “As I said before. . .” or “We’ve had this conversation before.”
These phrases can be off-putting because they're indicating someone's really stupid for not remembering something that was said earlier. Why not be diplomatic and say what you have to say in an interesting new way? [...]
IF I COULD SAY IT OVER AGAIN #5 “You look great for your age.”
This is a biggie. Never, ever say this. It's saying someone of whatever age they're at are at death's door or somehow total wrecks. Using the qualifier, "for your anything" is so condescending it hurts. [...]
IF I COULD SAY IT OVER AGAIN #4 “You always … or you never.”
Nobody always or never does anything. People aren't one-dimensional, so it's not a good thing to define them by "always" and "never." These phrases are guaranteed to make someone defensive and closed off to what [...]
IF I COULD SAY IT OVER AGAIN #3 “You were too good for him anyway.”
Ouch. This implies the person who has just severed a relationship, personal or business, has awful taste and made a stupid choice in the first place. Instead, make a comment like, "His loss!" This provides [...]
August 2015
IF I COULD SAY IT OVER AGAIN #2 THE “WOW YOU LOST A TON OF WEIGHT!”
Sounds like a compliment, I know, but it could create the impression that the person used to be really fat or unattractive. Better to say, "Wow, you look fantastic!" That way you're not commenting on [...]
THINGS TO NEVER SAY TO SOMEONE
We're so intent on our own personal agendas that we're out to lunch when it comes to social awareness. I gleaned most of the following from an article by Dr. Travis Bradberry. In his company's [...]
July 2015
Death & Life
This week I learned of a beautiful young woman who leapt from an interstate overpass bridge onto the concrete pavement below. Her intention was suicide -- but she didn't die. At this writings she and [...]
May 2015
On Writing
Wow. I just finished writing a new book called WALK WITH ME, JESUS (release date: 11/15) It was an amazing experience for me, just like the two TALK TO ME, JESUS books have been for [...]
July 2016
Marie Wins Award At Del Mar Fair
Look What I won at the Del Mar Fair! It’s a ribbon and award from the California Center for the Arts in Escondido, CA for my large collage (hundreds of small acrylic painted pieces) [...]
“People’s Choice Award”
Here’s me with Dave Roberts, Del Mar’s Supervisor receiving the” People's Choice Award" for my painting, “Lost in the Woods” at the Turner Gallery in Del Mar Here’s the paintng
North Coast Repertory Theatre Solana Beach CA Painting in Exhibition to celebrate new production of “Ain’t Misbehavin”
Herbert T. Turner Gallery, Del Mar, CA 4 paintings of my paintings are in the exhibition Opening Reception July 23 1-5 PM
July 4: Look What I won at the Del Mar Fair! It’s a ribbon and award from the California Center for the Arts in Escondido, CA for my large collage (hundreds of small acrylic painted pieces) acrylic painting: “Embraced in Wonderland.” SOLD. GalleryJuly 4: Look What I won at the Del Mar Fair! It’s a ribbon and award from the California Center for the Arts in Escondido, CA for my large collage (hundreds of small acrylic painted pieces) acrylic painting: “Embraced in Wonderland.” SOLD.
July 4: Look What I won at the Del Mar Fair! It’s a ribbon and award from the California Center for the Arts in Escondido, CA for my large collage (hundreds of small acrylic painted pieces) acrylic painting: “Embraced in Wonderland.” SOLD.
Look What I won at the Del Mar Fair! It’s a ribbon and award from the California Center for the Arts in Escondido, CA for my large collage (hundreds of small acrylic painted pieces) acrylic [...]
Herbert T. Turner Gallery, Del Mar, CA 4 paintings of my paintings are in the exhibition Opening Reception July 23 1-5 PM
Herbert T. Turner Gallery, Del Mar, CA 4 paintings of my paintings are in the exhibition Opening Reception July 23 1-5 PM
Marie Chapian Receives People’s Choice Award
This photo and story appeared in the Del Mar Times this week. I was really blessed to receive the People’s Choice Award for my painting in the SAG group exhibition at the Turner Gallery. The County Supervisor,Dave Roberts presented the award. Over 200 people were in attendance making it a fun experience for artists and spectators alike.